Wednesday, September 16, 2015

"Check Yourself Before You Wreck Yourself"

 

Gleaning: 

Mental Health Check

 

Call your congressman, Nancy Grace, Sheila Smoot. Why? To advocate for paid mental health days. Yes, mental health days,  just like, but in addition too, sick leave and vacation pay. I suggest starting with at least three days a year.
 
Who needs mental health days? We all do. Let's start a Kickstarter campaign, gofundme account or MoveOn petition!
 
Seriously, a mental health day isn't an excuse to skip work because your manager pissed you off. Mental conditions can cause severe problems functioning and focusing at work. Work stress can harm a person dealing with an episode of depression, mania, anxiety, etc. causing even more damage. Ever heard of the term, "going postal?"
 
Confession: I used to think that black people couldn't be depressed. I thought all we needed was Jesus and our pastor-until I experienced depression for myself. I wasn't just sad or having a bad day, a bad week, a bad year. I had it bad.
 
When I sought help with talk therapy and then medication, I realized that I wasn't crazy. Its a true illness. When I started sharing my story and struggle, others started to open up about their personal experiences or experiences with family members and other loved ones. It's nothing to be ashamed of, it's not your fault, you aren't a bad person. It can be fixed and maintained.
 
I've recently learned about Project Semicolon, a concept spearheaded by Amy Bleuel. She explains that a semicolon is a pause; not a stop. It signifies that our stories don't have to end in tragedy because of mental illness, it's just a pause in our story.  And how fitting the symbol is for a writer. 

 

 

October 10th is World Mental Health Day

 

Thursday, September 10, 2015

"Living by Design, not Default"

Gleaning: Books 

My view

 
The Top Five Regrets of the Dying by Bronnie Ware
 


 
Confession: I have a general dislike for people who boast about how many activities they are involved in and how busy and tired they are like its some kind of virtue in that. Do I sound kinda bitter? I am. They make me feel like its something wrong with me that I am not doing something every second of my day.
 
That used to be me. When I was in high school, I was president of my church's youth group, senior class president which included planning the prom and Class Day, in a community service group through my local hip-hop station and active in social justice community youth groups. Why? Because I wanted to look good on my college and scholarship applications. I wanted my accomplishments annouced in church from the pulpit. I wanted people to admire and respect me.
 
Eventually, I crashed and I have been on a permanent break ever since.
 
According to Bronnie Ware, the top five regrets of the dying are:
 
I wish-
1.)  I had the courage to live true to myself and not live the life others expected of me
2.) I hadn't worked so hard
3.) I'd had the courage to express my feelings
4.) I had stayed in touch with my friends
5.) I had let myself be happier
 
Pastor Chris Hodges' recent message on stress made this more clear for me. He said we must start to live by design and not by default; not just living off of what's left after you have done everything everyone else wants you to do. He suggested we get the clutter out of our lives and do only those things that are a part of our purpose.
 
I have decided my priorities are God, my family, my friends and writing. Everything I commit to doing, should center around one or more of these things. Right now, I don't think I'm in danger of working too hard AT ALL. I feel pressure to step it up in that area. But, I am an introvert and I require a long period of time to recover from being "on" for just a few hours.
 
I may express my feelings a little too much. One thing I learned from my brother's death is that life is too short to hold things in, so I do my best to make sure I am heard and let other people be heard as well.
 
I pride myself on not caring what other people think of me but in reality, I do. I just spend a lot of time beating myself up about, "why am I not more like. . ."
 
As of today, what do you regret? If you aren't scared, share them in the comments, here or on Facebook.

Wednesday, September 2, 2015

Let Me Reintroduce Myself



My name is Alison S. Moore- Liz and Jimmie Moore's baby girl, Corey and Brandon's little sister, Christopher, Tiana, Brandon, Genesis and James' aunt (Auntie Adventures coming soon!), and absentee godmother to Alaejah and Dylan.
 
I am also the self-published best-selling author of ...and you win some. At least it was a best-seller at my home church, St. John A.M.E Downtown Birmingham.
 
After much deliberation and changing of ideas, I have started working on my second book, Azalea in Season. Many who have read ...and you win some  have told me they want to know more about the troubled, mysterious Jodie Sutton. They want her to find happiness and a man, happiness with a man or just a man, I'm not quite sure. You will learn the background behind her pain in Azalea in Season.
 
Go ahead, click the button on the upper right side to purchase your copy from Amazon and get caught up. Get one for your mother, aunt and cousin too! I'll keep you updated on my progress.
 
Some of my faithful readers have expressed shock that I haven't written anything given the current political and racial climate in America. They know I usually have a lot to say on such topics. One thing I can say, #imtiredofbeingblack. These issues aren't going anywhere so I know I will have more opportunities to speak on them soon.
 
If you've read any of my earlier posts this year, you will see that I have been doing a reading challenge. I have read like 10 out of my goal of 26 for the year. I'll start again bringing you my personal reflections on these books from my saved, single and sarcastic Christian point of view.
 
I've cut down on my television watching but my favorite shows- Empire, Scandal, How to Get Away with Murder and Celebrity Apprentice, oops I mean the Republican Primaries are coming up soon. I'm sure they will provide a lot of fodder for the blog!
 
This is what you can expect from me.
 
See you next Wednesday!